Over the years I've learned that most people - women and men alike - assume that women aren't supposed to act like they enjoy sex. They tell themselves that only "sluts" and "over-sexed cougars" love sex. Why? Because it scares them to imagine that liking sex, wanting it, even begging for it on our hands and knees, has very real consequences to it. Those consequences are complicated and messy, yet fun to explore if we embrace it.